Thursday, August 09, 2007

ever been in a situation where you have your own methods of dealing with things but every one around you either expects you to deal in another way or pushes you to react how they want you to react?



its really frustrating and stressful, some times seeking advice can make things alot more worse lol.



and then you always end up having to upset some one because you didn't do as they expected, so instead of a feeling of release you feel trapped if that makes any sense.

i know most peoples intentions are in the right place and its nice to know that there are people who want to help but some times you cant but help thinking 'why did i open my mouth'

you know that saying 'to many cooks spoil the broth' i totally agree.

9 comments:

a_akak said...

a friend should always give advice but giving advice does not mean that you have to take it as then it will be an order not advice ..... if u need any advice u know where to find us :D and i would never expect anyone to take my advise so u will be safe :P

Fe Aman Allah

Anglo-Libyan said...

whitesafrican, if it makes you feel any better then I think we all go through this and experience the same feelings, as bloggers we have the advantage of writing about these things that bug us :o)

NATIVE FEMALE said...

People always have their expectations so don't worry too much about them. Do what you feel is right and comfortable to you.

InhshaAllah kheyr sis

white african said...

akak thanks :)

i always appreciate peoples advice, and like i said its nice to know people want to genuinly help but sometimes it can verge on control.

i know i could always rely on my blogging family :)

anglo one of the best things about blogging is the ranting :)

native thanks hun, things are looking brighter already alhamdullilah.

maybe it's a case of me making a mountain out of a mole hill!

No1 said...

I Am Agree with NATIVE FEMALE;
(Do what you feel is right and comfortable to you.).

Be Happy my Dear sister.

Brave Heart said...

i think friends advice's contribution to any of our decision must not exceed 20% from our decision.
my advice is do what u feel is right 4 u, because at the end of the day u who will suffer not them.

The Godfather said...

Why do people put chains on us?

Everbody wants us to be what they want us to be.

But we're not happy when we try to fake it!

white african said...

thanks brave, wise words as usual :) i did decide to do what i felt was right and i feel alot better.

godfather i guess its a matter of pleasing others and not ourselves which is a very common factor amongst any community unfortunatly.

Lady_WildKat said...

dont know about that, i'm all for pleasing myself! and if that works out to the benefit of my fam, cool, if not, what the hell, no bother!...sorry been talking to my scottish cousin.

and anyway every1 knows they cant mess with you, just say i'll set the twins on you and you know its all over then :oP laters